It's a normal Sunday morning. Sheila's still asleep. Molly is on her bed and just gave me that "Leave me alone - I'm not done sleeping!" look. I just got a full eight hours of sleep, and I'm having fun with my Sunday morning ritual - writing Reflections.
I'm going with a challenge most of you can identify with, the art of staying mellow. It is an art form, and for some of us requires an incredible amount of time, thought, and practice.
I'm not even close to where I want to be. Here's the challenge - I'm Type A through and through and want to be more Type B. I'm getting better, but so often if I feel something is wrong I have to fix it. The problem comes in when I get frustrated over not being able to resolve problems outside my control.
Examples would be dealing with Frontier Communications, Amazon's Customer Service or just about any county government office. I'm typically on hold an incredibly long time; it always takes more than one person to solve the problem, and whoever you talk to typically doesn't have the authority to fix the problem. So many calls have to escalate to a supervisor/manager level. That in itself wouldn't be a problem, but as I sit on hold my blood starts to boil!
With Sheila's help, I'm working on trying to slide the bar more to the Type B side of the scale. Here's what seems to be working:
Last on the list - I'm working hard to keep things in perspective and find balance in my priorities. This is the toughest change of all because I'm always multi-tasking and often take on more projects than I should. My good buddy Julianne Kost at Adobe has a great line when she's on overload and once said to me, "Sorry, I'm just out of bandwidth!"
We all wear multiple hats. Most of you are business owners, community members, parents, spouses, siblings, friends, and lovers. "Balance" is such an over-used word, but it's the one that fits the best, and we all have moments where our priorities are knocked out of whack. But here's my point - you can't fix the challenge of balance in your life if you're out of alignment yourself - and that's where working to be more mellow plays its role.
God, grant me the serenity to accept stupid people the way they are,
courage to maintain self-control
and the wisdom to know if I act on it I will go to jail.
Wishing everybody a wonderful Sunday, and a day filled with mellow moments, peace, and doing what makes you smile the most. There's so much pain in the world reminding us that no matter how bad we're feeling about something there's somebody out there who has it much worse! Go for those eleven-second hugs with people most important to you and the ones that help you define balance in your life!
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