I woke up this morning and for a long time was just lying in bed staring at the ceiling. I was thinking about a group of people who used to make up my family. I say "used to", because like a lot of people they chose to be judgmental when I started the divorce process eight years ago. There are only two people who understand why a marriage dies, but it's ironic how many others think they know what happened and then pass judgement. Well, it's been almost eight years, and I'm overdue to move on.
Like many of you who have experienced "challenges" with family or friends, I've gone through all the steps of grieving: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. It's time to get on with life. I've quoted Melody Beattie more than once in past posts. If you'd like to find out more about her or order her book, just click on the cover.
Who told you that you were bad and wrong? Are you still letting others tell you that---after all these years?
Listen quietly. Whose voice do you hear telling you that? Is someone still putting you down, sabotaging your happiness, preventing you from living and moving in self-acceptance, joy, and love?
Inhale and breathe in love, peace, and joy. Exhale and breathe out negative energy and negative messages. Feel them loosen, disintegrate, release. Feel your soul, mind, and heart become clear. You don't have to let others take your power, rob your joy. Don't become so accustomed to living with the pain of old, negative messages that you don't notice how much they hurt.
Get rid of these old messages. Pull them out of your soul just as you would pull out barbs or knives. Pull them out one by one, then toss them away. You don't have to work around the pain from these messages any more. You don't have to figure out how to incorporate that pain into your life.
Allow yourself to heal. Find new messages that empower you with love, messages that set you free.
Make it a terrific weekend. Forget about those loved ones you just can't reach and hug those people by your side right now. Make the hugs last at least eleven seconds and thanks for sticking by me, even when I go off track! Wishing everybody a terrific weekend.