Grieving is different for everybody, but it is a process that cannot be ignored or denied. So, every now and then there's something that triggers a flashback. This morning I want to share one of my most fun memory-driving "pieces of Dad".
So, tell me what's in the picture above.
Here's the backstory:
Dad's Caregiver, Joan, missed that his wallet was in his pants when she did a load of wash a few months back. We were all going out to lunch together and as I walked into Dad's place, there was his soaked wallet on the kitchen table being blotted dry between a stack of paper towels.
Well, Mr-Know-It-All that I am, I looked at them both and said, "Give me five minutes and I'll have your wallet dry and ready to go." I then popped it in the microwave and twenty seconds later the piece of artwork above, now proudly displayed on my desk came out.
Even writing about it now still makes me laugh. Dad went into shock, then laughter until the tears rolled down his cheeks. Joan laughed the hardest, mostly thanks to my stupidity getting her off the hook. And while hesitant to even show it to him at first, I laughed until it hurt.
It's a real simple point this morning about grieving and memories. We're all in the business of helping people capture memories and while many of us talk about it a lot, we're not always able to walk the talk.
I miss my folks a lot, but they're around me all the time. I'm wearing Dad's watch. Sheila wears Mom's. Our home is filled with memories and if I've learned nothing else, it's to just go with the tears when they need to flow. Somehow they always lead me to the chuckles and those priceless moments, some captured on film, others just on neuro-chromes.
So, if you're grieving, remember you're not alone. You don't have to keep a "stiff upper lip" for anybody and most important of all, find those moments that make you smile along with the ones that make you sad. And last on the list, never put a wet wallet in a microwave!
Make it a great Sunday everybody! Hug somebody close to you. Smile as you think of the good times with somebody you've lost. Go for those eleven-second hugs whenever possible. Best of all, enjoy the day and make a few memories!