Three to four times a year I share a post featuring Melody Beattie's work. There are usually two motivating factors. First, I like a lot of what she writes and believe everybody needs to feed their brain and soul with something other than the challenges of their business every day. Second, she's written some spot-on pieces about issues we all face, not just in business but life. (Click on the cover to the left if you want to find out more about her books.)
Then, there's a third. It's my birthday and this morning I really wanted to find something to write about that went beyond the topics of business and marketing.
I've spoken to so many photographers lately who seem obsessed with fear. They're spending so much time worrying about what could go wrong that they almost miss what's going right! I posted a quote this week on Twitter that fits...
"The hardest arithmetic for us to master is that which enables us to count our blessings."
This morning's Melody Beattie piece was all about fear, and it seems so appropriate to share it.
"It's time to stop punishing ourselves. Time to stop beating ourselves over the head with fear.
This is the scenario. A fear enters our mind. Our mind takes it and runs with it. Something bad is going to happen. Something terrible and traumatic is on the way. We quickly review the traumas of our past and make the determinations: Yes, it is very possible that this devastating event will happen.
So we sit crouched in the present moment full of fear and dread. We worry that the worst that could possibly happen, probably will. We begin to believe that it is most likely waiting at our doorstep, ready to pounce on us and steal our joy, our peace, our place and rhythm in the universe.
Because we have harbored the fear so intensely, it has already manifested itself. The thing we fear doesn't need to happen, it already has - or it might well have - because we are already forcing ourselves to live through it.
Yes, many awful things have happened to you and me that we are very sorry happened. But that doesn't mean that we have to give up the beauty of the present moment to something that hasn't happened yet. Even if it does happen sometime in the future, by harboring the fear we will have lived through it twice as long as we need to.
Recognize and acknowledge your fear. Then release it. Let go of the energy. Stop punishing yourself. While life's seasons may not always be fair, they are trustworthy. And within each day, each moment of each season, there is a way of peace and joy. Do not allow fear of what if to ruin the joy of what is.
And, one more thought...
If I've learned nothing else in my life and especially all my years in this industry, it's that everything always works out for the better. Even the mistakes over the years eventually contribute to a stronger path and direction!
Wishing everybody a terrific day and one without even the smallest fears or worries!